What happens when you remember events surrounding our separation? HDIFTYT?

Dear LORD:

Give us grace to continue to dialog. We need this communication tool to remain connected and keep our relationship vital. Amen!

Dearest Ruth:

Your MEQ today was being incredibly good in bed. I have told you this before, but I never get tired of saying it. You are incredibly sexy! Yay!

I feel OK about remembering the events of our separation. I did that in conversations with you several times today. I feel completely comfortable telling you that.

Like I said, I do not allow myself to question the why in many of the things you did when we were going through that time. You did many things then that did not make sense to me. But whatever. Divorce and separation is a form of insanity. It is unreasonable and stupid to expect any kind of logic or rational thinking out of a person at that time in their life.

I was in a very emotional state as well. I did the best I could but undoubtedly made a lot of mistakes. I just want to go on.

I think of our separation as something that had to happen for us to get to the point we are now. We were terrible then, but as bad as that was, that is how good it is now. I treasure everyday with you. I love being with you and the relaxed, comfortable, but incredibly sexy and exciting, relationship that we share at this point.

So, in the matter of sharing about how either of us felt during our separation, I am pretty much OK with that, no matter what. It happened. I am not interested in wallowing in that time. On the other hand, I am not going to avoid it either. We have a lot to live for and look forward to at this point. I love you and treasure you tremendously. I want to spend the rest of my days pampering and spoiling you and our daughter. (Eventually, she will leave home and it will just be you and me. Yay!) I find you soooooo very fun to be with.

It was a tough time, that's all. We went through it, and now it's over. We are together now. We never have to do that again. We just need to keep working on our relationship the way we are now, and that will never happen again.

Like Charlie said, it is a process of working daily around the edges of our differences. We are not the same, and conflict and differences are inevitable. But by fully understanding each other, we become capable of changing and accommodating each other in our marriage. We can do that. We are doing it.

Love,
Me